My cousin may not want to read any farther.
I'm sad to say I don't remember much of the last few days before my wedding because they are a blur of nervousness, and frustration. (Has everyone been fitted for their suit or tux? Did we order enough boutonnieres for all of the ushers? Mom still needs photos for the photo board!) I was so concerned about the dresses, flowers and reception that I almost forgot to enjoy the actual wedding. Most of all was my concern about everyone else's happines and whether or not they would have a good time. I had never planned a big party before. It was like being thrown in the water without being taught first how to swim. And do you know WHY? *caution, opinion ahead,*
Weddings nowadays, bring with them a whole cart-load of unnecessary "foo-foo"! There, I said it and am now zipping up my flame-suit.
But one could argue that I'm not a fan of big, foo-foo weddings only because I was given the opportunity to have one. We had a nice wedding. We didn't have a dance, but we did have nice flowers, dinner music, a cake etc. You could argue that I might feel differently if I had not been given that opportunity or that I'd feel like I was cheated out of some rite-of-passage that every woman should be allowed to have. Fine. You might be right. But when it really boils down to it...your wedding vows are all that really matter. All that extra stuff, the unity candle, the sand pouring thingy, the 3 musical solos, the bubbles and the huge party afterwards,.....it's all extra.
|Sand foo foo|
|Pew bow foo foo|
|Reception foo foo|
|Here's a fun one from the 1950's. Love the big smile on the brides face.|
|This dress from Brides Magazine....$13,575.00. Now that's a big price tag.|
|Marie Antoinette cake that is absolutly georgeous but kinda over the top.|
If Shannan and I had to do it all over again...well, it would be simple. A country church, simple flowers, simple dress, just a handful of friends and relatives, and no reception. (Maybe a fun dinner/get-together with family and close friends the night before).
No party favors, no big mess to clean up. Just the Word, the vows, and the rings (and maybe someone to play Wedding Day at Troldhaugen as everyone is leaving the church). http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7PzsyZR6Jt4&feature=related.
|I wish I knew who took this picture of these rings on the Bible! It is neat the way the rings make the heart shadow!|
|A picnic reception, how clever!|
|Simple flowers in glass bottles. Just grab a scissors and head to Grandma's garden.|
|Simple cake. I looked and looked online and simple cakes are apparently a thing of the past. It was hard to find a picture of a simple cake.|
|Interesting idea. I myself wouldn't do it, but I like the idea!|